#15a Goals are waypoints, not destinations. You can change your waypoint on the destination you call success.

 I am not aware of anyone who is totally happy with their life. If they say they are liars.

The fantastic thing about getting older is that we grow into ourselves. Had I been stuck doing what I had wanted to do with my life at 18 I may be very wealthy but I would also be very unhappy.
When I first met you I was 24. The person's goals and aspirations, while essential to who I am today, are no more who I am today than the pizza I ate in those same days.
I have changed. Some goals I finished. Others I traveled towards only to realize along the way that it was not what I wanted to do with my life.

Goals aren't a required destination. They are waypoints on your way to a life well-lived.

If you wanted to travel to China, by road, planned and researched a route, and set out down the road... Only to come across a bridge that was washed out.
Would you stop moving towards China, I wouldn't I want my rice and noodles for dinner.
I'd look at my goal, in this case, China represents a good life, and if the route I desired for a good life didn't work out for me I'd have to look at where I am, what I know about myself now, and maybe I decide India has Pretty decent curry, and look rice. And... I don't have to cross this washed-out bridge.

And the thing is. . . It is okay to have curry. Because in the end the value of your life can only be measured by you. Sometimes our lifelong dreams are better left as dreams or hobbies. Other times God needs us to be what we have longed to be... Just don't be surprised in the long life of what-ifs you don't have another chance to decide if Curry is what you want or maybe some of Israel's finest cuisine.

Because as I've traveled the lonely roads. The things I have wanted to do if I grow up have changed. I wanted to be an architect. Now I want to have a farm and a greenhouse. And in between, I wanted to be a pilot, a policeman, a bodyguard, a ship's Captain, and on and on. Each thing taught me about myself. Changed me. Molded me. And it wasn't wrong in any way to desire that... I could still do all of them. Or none of them. I could even become a doctor or lawyer. Then five years later decide to be a professional actor.
And it isn't wrong. Unhealthy. Crazy. Or so on.
God sent us here to be tested. I am reasonably certain that all the answers aren't down a single path decided for us years ago.

2017

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