#3 Healthy or Happy

People do not want to be happy or healthy. 

They will do anything and everything to sabotage their own success often without realizing they are doing so.

In the bible, there is a story about needing to look on a brass serpent. People could not believe something so easy as just looking up would save them. They died. 

I often see people who try meditation or self-help and if it doesn't change them instantly, in the first picosecond, it is clearly hogwash and modern-day snake oil. You can present well-documented and peer-reviewed papers, interviews with leading experts in the field, and a signed statement by their deity of choice and they will still refuse because... all because they want the instant gratification they get from public self-immolation.

Self-immolation is what they are actually after.

They find a perverse joy in tearing themselves down and then bragging about it:
"I can not, I am not a well-adjusted human, and the .000001 second I spent in self-improvement or self-corrective behavior made me feel small and worthless... please tell me how I am well adjusted as I can be, and how not worthless I am... just not that way!"

I am sorry you are worthless, would you like to know how to fix that?

You don't have to be healthy today. You do need to be better, overall, today than yesterday. 
Nobody expects or actually wants you to be perfect. If they do please examine #12 on the list.

I have spent most of my life sick, one antibiotic from death... literally one, I am allergic to the others; with doctors telling me on a regular basis this is a high risk we need to destroy your immune system completely so you don't die and there is NOTHING we can do besides the nuclear option... to reasonably healthy.
It took 8 years to get so I wasn't always sick, changes in diet, exercise (let be honest, I walked once it sucked, now I watch other people walk and call it exhausting.), as well as a mental shift in how I perceive myself.
I had to change the identity I had of always being sick. I went from the guy who was always sick to the guy who was sick 2 times a year, but it nearly killed me each time... and it did; To I almost never get sick, and when I do I'll be alright if I can get some sleep.
I haven't been sick, nearly dead, in 3 years. What was a weekly, then monthly, then bi-yearly, then annually... just gradually faded away. My wife and daughter got very very sick, and I got ishsick. I slept in the hospital bed with my daughter and I only got ishsick, I missed 2 day of work and only because my job refuses to have me work sick.

Notice the 8-year timeline? After telling the doctors what level of hell they could go? No Picosecond solutions. 

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